Hey, it’s Taylor.
We rarely do this, but today I’d like to share an extremely important post I made in our Deep Game Forum last week.
It addresses a crippling problem that way too many up-and-coming players face, and I think it might help you as well.
Please read it today, so we can put an end to this problem together.
Originally posted by @taylorallan
9:09 am EST, Feb 18
If you were looking at yourself as an outside person, maybe a close friend of yours…
How kind and compassionate are you being to that person?
Do you have a warm, relaxed, supportive feeling towards them, or are you somewhat cold and demanding and pushing them to do things they don’t want to do?
How do you speak to that person?
What type of language do you use?
Is it sharp and absolute (“you MUST do this!”) or is it open and compassionate (“how are you feeling about this right now?”)
And, when you “need” to push yourself for some reason (obligation, etc) how are you pushing yourself?
With compassion (“I know this is tough – let’s do it, we got this”)…
…Or with guilt and shame and fear (“I don’t care how it feels, we’re doing this!”)
There is of course a time and place for tough love, but it’s maybe ~5% of the time, only when absolutely needed – not 95% of the time, which is the dose most of us impose on ourselves.
When we actually begin to pay attention to our own relationship with ourselves, most of us realize that we are harder, meaner, and colder towards ourselves than almost anybody else is towards us.
We are our own worst best friend.
If we treated others the way we treated ourselves, nobody would want to be around us – and yet, nobody spends more time with us than we do.
This is one of society’s most fundamental problems, and if it were fixed then most of our sociological and even environmental problems would almost immediately fix themselves as a result.
We’ve been thoroughly brainwashed into thinking we “MUST!” drive ourselves ruthlessly in the name of “success” and “productivity”…
…Only to realize that any measure of success is hollow and miserable because we still have to spend all of our time with our own ruthless, merciless mind.
No amount of “success” will ever cure this problem.
The only cure is Love, and Love starts with the Love you give yourself.
So, give yourself some Love today.
You really do deserve it 🙏
- T
P.S. For those asking about our Forum, it’s only available to members of the complete Deep Game program (if you’re ready to join, here’s where you can get the details).
But if seeing more important Forum posts like these would help you, hit reply and let us know 🙂
We’ll do it more often if there’s enough interest.