It’s Not Enough to Be Right—You Also Have to Be Kind

There is a story about Jeff Bezos from when he was a young boy. He was with his grandparents, both of whom were smokers. Bezos had recently heard an anti-smoking PSA on the radio that explained how many minutes each cigarette takes off a person’s lifespan. And so, sitting there in the backseat, like a typical precocious kid, he put his math skills and this new knowledge to work and proudly explained to his grandmother, as she puffed away, “You’ve lost nine years of your life, Grandma!”

The typical response to this kind of innocent cheekiness is to pat the child on the head and tell them how smart they are. Bezos’ grandmother didn’t do that. Instead, she quite understandably burst into tears. It was after this exchange that Bezos’ grandfather took his grandson aside and taught him a lesson that he says has stuck with him for the rest of his life. “Jeff,” his grandfather said, “one day you’ll understand that it’s harder to be kind than clever.”

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In The Wake Of Kobe Bryant’s Death, Kendrick Perkins Apologized To Kevin Durant

Remember when former teammates, Kendrick Perkins and Kevin Durant had a Twitter beef earlier this month, after Perkins criticized Durant for leaving the Oklahoma City Thunder to join the Golden State Warriors calling it ‘the weakest move in NBA History’?!

Kobe Bryant’s tragic death now caused Perkins to reach out to Durant and offer an honest apology. Tragedies like this make us stop and think about life, and how it can all be over within a second. There is no time for stupid feuds, especially with people who are close to you. Respect to Perk for this grown man move.

“Just wanted to tell you I Love you my brother and whatever I did to hurt you I’m sorry bro and hope you forgive me!!! I love you bro real Talk!”

苦大仇深的人,最易成功

http://www.themindset101.com/article.php?id=40306

前阿里CEO 衛哲說過一句話:

創業要招那些苦大仇深的人。

為什麼會這麼說?

衛哲在阿里的時候,大家都知道在阿里有一個中供鐵軍,這是一支強大的地推隊伍,這支隊伍怎麼起來的?其實跟苦大仇深這四個字有著很大的關係。

那時的阿里,包括剛進入到大家視野的互聯網,大家基本上對這個沒概念,你想想在這種情況下,去打造一支地推隊伍,讓商家入駐到阿里巴巴平台,可能嗎?

想必大家也都看過早期馬雲推銷中國黃頁的時候,被認為是傳銷,他在北京回去的路上,側臉望向車窗外說了一句:

再過幾年,北京就不會這麼對我;再過幾年,你們都知道我是乾什麼的。

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一位老僧說:心術不正的人,往往有這三個特徵,要敬而遠之

http://www.thevalue101.com/article.php?id=39970

俗話說:活到老學到老,在做人、識人這方面,我們永遠有學不完的東西,人生也就像是一本錯題本,需要我們不斷的記錄自己的錯誤,糾正錯誤,然後才能成就自己,這個過程可能很枯燥漫長,但是卻值得我們每個人去踐行。

這個世界上,我們會接觸很多人,形形色色,有的真誠,有的虛偽,有的至死不渝,也有的忘恩負義,面對繁雜的世界,我們只保持自己有一顆良善的本心是不夠的;

俗話說:防人之心不可無。面對一些“心術不正”的人,我們要能夠識別出,才能消災減禍;

所以,有一位老僧說:“心術不正”的人,往往有這三個特徵,要敬而遠之;

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There are two types of happiness—and we’re chasing the wrong one

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/eleven-habits-supremely-happy-people-dr-travis-bradberry/

We’re always chasing something—be it a promotion, a new car, or a significant other. This leads to the belief that, “When (blank) happens, I’ll finally be happy.”

While these major events do make us happy at first, research shows this happiness doesn’t last. A study from Northwestern University measured the happiness levels of regular people against those who had won large lottery prizes the year prior. The researchers were surprised to discover that the happiness ratings of both groups were practically identical.

The mistaken notion that major life events dictate your happiness and sadness is so prevalent that psychologists have a name for it: impact bias. The reality is, event-based happiness is fleeting.

Happiness is synthetic—you either create it, or you don’t. Happiness that lasts is earned through your habits. Supremely happy people have honed habits that maintain their happiness day in, day out. Try out their habits, and see what they do for you:

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The economics of privacy

https://marginalrevolution.com/marginalrevolution/2019/06/the-economics-of-privacy.html

Perhaps the biggest complaint about tech companies today is that they do not respect our privacy. They gather and store data on us, and in some cases, such as Facebook, they charge companies for the ability to send targeted ads to us. They induce us to self-reveal on the internet, often in ways that are more public than we might at first expect. Furthermore, tech data practices are not entirely appropriate, as for instance Facebook recently stored user passwords in an insecure, plain text format.

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Should love be rational?

Why do you love me? Tell me the reasons.

I love you because you are you. If I loved you for reasons then I wouldn’t love you, but the reasons. I would have to leave you if someone better came along.

Movies, music and novels portray a particular ideal of romantic love almost relentlessly. Love is something that happens to you, something you fall into even against your will or better judgement. It is something to be experienced as good in itself and joyfully submitted to, not something that should be questioned.

Is this person good for me? Would I be good for them? To ask such questions would betray a spirit of rational calculation that has no place in matters of the heart. The only question you should be asking is whether it is the real thing, which can be assessed by the strength of your feelings for the other. For authentic love, no price is too great.

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Six things you don’t owe your boss

The typical workday is long enough as it is, and technology is making it even longer. When you do finally get home from a full day at the office, your mobile phone rings off the hook, and emails drop into your inbox from people who expect immediate responses.

While most people claim to disconnect as soon as they get home, recent research says otherwise. A study conducted by the American Psychological Association found that more than 50% of us check work email before and after work hours, throughout the weekend, and even when we’re sick. Even worse, 44% of us check work email while on vacation.

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