- a backlash among young people has been quietly boiling.
- “You start doing things that are dishonest”
- weary of the pressures of sustaining an online persona
- It became depressing. It was this competition of who’s the happiest
- A desire to build authentic, offline friendships motivated some to quit
- did so in order to “use time in more valuable ways”.
- “mindless vortex of never-ending scrolling”
- but there is a sense of privacy that is being breached as well
- Constant screen time damages your ability to see, and it also causes internal damage, such as anxiety
- when you do, it’s such a relief
- how lucky we feel influences our future fortunes.
- luck begets luck
- This makes optimists the luckiest people of all
- optimists are more likely to see other people’s experiences as lucky, while pessimists focus on misfortune in the same set of facts
- “a significant positive correlation” between subjects’ level of optimism and how lucky they thought others were.
- judgments about luck are inconsistent and changeable, “the predictable result of framing effects and idiosyncratic personality traits.”
- most people mistakenly believe their success is the inevitable result of hard work or personal qualities, ignoring the fact that they’ve made a lucky draw in a numbers game.
- people who acknowledge luck as an element of their success are more attractive to others.
- the ability to recognize fortune’s role makes for a more humble person—and humility is a more attractive quality than arrogance.
- luck is a kind of self-fulfilling prophecy.
- Wiseman posits that feeling unlucky creates fear and anxiety, which in turn makes us less likely to see opportunities. Lucky people are, to some degree, those who keep their eyes, minds, and hearts open, making themselves available for fortune.
- The luckiest among us, then, are great storytellers—magical realists who can see the upside of downturns and consider how much worse things might have been.
- People who can spin a yarn that emphasizes what went right, rather than focusing solely on what went awry, ultimately create good fortune, and thus up their chances of getting lucky again
Sometime when you’re feeling important;
Sometime when your ego’s in bloom;
Sometime when you take it for granted,
You’re the best qualified in the room:
Sometime when you feel that your going,
Would leave an unfillable hole,
Just follow these simple instructions,
And see how they humble your soul.
Take a bucket and fill it with water,
Put your hand in it up to the wrist,
Pull it out and the hole that’s remaining,
Is a measure of how much you’ll be missed.
You can splash all you wish when you enter,
You may stir up the water galore,
But stop, and you’ll find that in no time,
It looks quite the same as before.
The moral of this quaint example,
Is to do just the best that you can,
Be proud of yourself but remember,
There’s no indispensable man.
Dwight D. Eisenhower — five-star general, Supreme Allied Commander, U.S. President — carried a copy of the same poem in his pocket. In fact, when Ike returned to Normandy for the 20th anniversary of D-Day and was asked to give a speech at a dinner commemorating the invasion, rather than use the occasion to wax poetic about his role in executing one of the most monumental military operations in history, this man of singular eminence instead used the opportunity to read — “The Indispensable Man.”
There is the type who expects to be asked a number of questions from management. And then there is the type who expects not only to do most of the asking, but to put on a presentation. It is the first type that sees the situation as an interview, and it is the second who sees it not as an interview, but as an audition.
in charge and detailed exactly what he was planning to do
just enough questions to establish comfort and trust, then they reveal how much research they have done prior to showing up, by explaining all the things they’ve learned about the business, how they intend to improve it and exactly why they’re the right person for the job. This move, done politely but confidently, immediately separates them from all the other potential hires.
Yet the fact is that our lives can be defined by these moments of earnest ambition.
We might regret missed opportunities here or there, but rarely do we have the self-awareness and insight to see the opportunities we missed turning into opportunities because we were too lazy, too scared, too entitled to do the work to turn them into opportunities in the first place.
I love the Briefcase Technique because, sure, it’s about confidence and about knowing your shit, but mostly it’s about being willing to actually take a swing at something. To truly put yourself out there — to try.
There are just as many stories about coaches or ambitious upstarts who were laughed out of the room or passed over for someone more qualified, more connected, more “deserving.”
But when it does work? Well, your whole life will change.
So try it.
- our well-being also is influenced by the company we keep
- can influence obesity, anxiety and overall happiness
- remarkably optimistic and upbeat
- a renewed commitment not only to exercise and healthful living, but to simply step up my social life and spend more time hanging out with happy people.
- The key to building a successful moai is to start with people who have similar interests, passions and values.
- I argue that the most powerful thing you can do to add healthy years is to curate your immediate social network
- Your group of friends are better than any drug or anti-aging supplement, and will do more for you than just about anything
沈复在沧浪亭畔生活多年。沧浪亭位于苏州古城南北主干道人民路稍南端的东侧，初为北宋诗人苏舜钦所建，现已列入世界文化遗产名录。沧浪亭北侧临水， 楼台亭阁，一座典型的江南小园林。”过石桥，进门，折东曲径而入，叠石成山，林木葱翠。亭在土山之巅。” 现状与书中描述完全吻合，但土山不高，至多只有两层楼那么高。当时的”周望极目可数里”当然已不可能。园中的”看山楼”似乎更高些。据书中”…居沧浪亭爱 莲居西间壁，板桥内一轩临流，…檐前老树一株，浓荫覆窗，…隔岸游人往来不绝…”的文字，可推测沈复的住宅应位于沧浪亭园林的西侧，即现在的人民路到沧浪 亭园林之间（现为几家商店）。因现在园内建筑中已没有名为”爱莲居”的房间，最西处是”锄月轩”和”藕花水榭”，沈复和陈芸婚后消夏之处很可能就是”锄月 轩”或旁边临河处。沧浪亭的河对面有一个小园林名”可园”，从网上资料（沧浪区志）证实其前身即为书中所述的”近山林”和”正谊书院”。
A boat is docked in a tiny Mexican fishing village.
A tourist complimented the local fishermen on the quality of their fish and asked how long it took to catch them.
“Not very long.” they answered in unison.
“Why didn’t you stay out longer and catch more?”