- They believe they are truly exceptional; you are not and are someone to be used
- Zero need to reciprocate the good; I’m deserving you are not; ongoing pattern; entitlement
- They have no sensitivity to the pain they cause; couldn’t be my fault; your the looser not me; no remorse
- Will vilify anyone who calls them out; not right to express your hurt; not equals; not in their league
- Uncomfortable with simple acts of kindness and showing warmth and tenderness; can’t love
- If they do anything for you; you will owe them; they are to be rewarded; judgemental
- When relationships end; they are insulting, to your face; behind your back; minimize your importance; sabotage; you will suffer
- Are willingly deceptive; sexual secrets; you don’t need to know; you do not matter
- The rules and protocols are for you not for the narcissist; they break rules; they are morality deficient; no ethics
- They are genuinely empty; they have no real life meaning; one purpose- to meet there own needs; no dignity; no respect; assessing anything about self is impossible
One sign of narcissism you may have not heard and is an early warning sign in the relationship; at the core is attention insecurity, insecure attachment style, no sense of closeness. You want to understand when they talk about their childhood that you should listen for them saying they had a wonderful childhood.
You will see that in truth they may be estranged from immediate and extended family, have attachment insecurities and any gaps are filled in with perfect childhood stories!
Look for the lack of details in their story, lack of color, of depth, an incoherent story combined with perfect fill in stories! This indicates extreme narcissism!
Be wise, be strong!
God bless