A little while ago, a player on our Forum was facing some jealousy, hate, and trash talk from his friends.
His response…
"I know I should torch them with success and work harder and meditate"…Was understandable — but there is a much better way to handle this type of challenge.
So here’s what I told him:
Originally posted by @taylorallan
via. The Deep Game Forum
“The desire to do this is completely normal…
But it is also the reason you’re feeling resistance from your friends at every turn.
Your friends will not care how successful you are, or how hard you work.
The only thing they care about is how you make them feel.
Can they relax around you? Do they feel better when you’re there than when you aren’t?
The answer, as always, is in the heart rather than in the head.
Re-direct your focus away from your own internal struggle to genuinely caring about them, and adding value to their lives, without expectations of getting anything in return.
This is how you will receive what you really want.”
This is a huge, huge secret in relationships:
Friends will challenge you (with trash talk, hate, envy, jealousy, etc) whenever you try to impose your ego on them.
Because imposing your ego is not what friendship is about.
Friendship is about helping each other be better, do better, and feel better.
For our veterans, this is a real-life application of Law #6, The Law of Magnetism:
The game comes to the player who does not try to pull the game towards himself.
For more on this, visit 42:53 in our Masterclass.
Or, for a (much) deeper dive, hit up week #6 in the complete Deep Game program.
And remember:
Your friends don’t care about how successful you are — they only care about how you make them feel.
Have an amazing one out there today.
You deserve it 🙏
- T