My experience with pwNPD is that their personalities seem static or timeless. I can pick up the phone and the ones I can call after years of no contact talk about the exact same topics as if we spoke yesterday. The voice is the same, the tone is the same. The exact same issues will cause the exact same reactions. They are data collectors and the conversation is more like a life inventory. How is so and so doing, how is your business, how is the weather, who is doing you wrong right now and lets go over how traumatic your childhood was. The only self awareness I hear is regrets as if everyone has done them wrong. One female my birth mother, my last phone call was to tell her my daughter was born, her only grand daughter, her response ” What good does that do me”, in shock i replied just wanted to share and tell you the genes are moving on, her response “after what my parents did to me the genes shouldn’t go on”. What can anyone say to that? Even older ones. 2 other females 2 generations above me, one my grandmother, both told me ” I wouldn’t get married or have children if I had to do it all over again, I would just stay single”. Both had 2 adult children that have no contact with them and deceased husbands. Both smoked cigarettes. Both died in their late 70’s. Both had wealthy spouses earlier in their lives. I brought my birth aunt to see my birth grandmother after 30 years of no contact. My grandmother had her flying monkeys around her that she had been financially supporting since 1975. Me being put up with adoption and no emotional connection just observing. It was a group setting at first outside. Cold and aloof but polite, when my aunt got into the living room with her mother alone my grandmother said in a monotone business like unemotional voice “Sooooo you wanted to see me?”. We left not long after. They don’t change,